Just corrected your Question a little bit. If it is a habit it can not be love - can it? White is all the colours not black which has no colours. Black attracts heat though and white reflects it. I know that's what most everyone believes, but I personally disagree with this thought because combining every color would lead to something darker, i.
By the way, Ian, you English?
The Color Of Love
As in, from England? I ask because you spelled colours, not colors. Yep I am - it is colour in English - Mr Webster and his mates decided to drop the "u" years ago - it is really superfluous. Also if you make a disc with all the colours of the rainbow in it and spin it it turns "whitish" and not black.
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Haha we could debate this all day, couldn't we? Because I'm stubborn and like to think differently from others. It's all colors. It's what you make of it. Its Red..
Love is in the air It's blue and white like the sky and the clouds. How lovely! Like a poem, thanks! Espero algun dia encontrar de nuevo amor de veras! Love is pink!
Green is the Color of Love • Mamaguru
I knew you would say that Lovely : - ian-hill, Mar 5, Coffee or fresh bread - ian-hill, Mar 6, Maybe it's bird-colored? I like that. What color is hatred? Whites may fear loss of privileged status for their children and grandchildren, while people of color may fear loss of cultural identity. If the couple has children, as most couples do, the children have a blood tie to both clans, which strengthens -- and complicates -- the links immeasurably.
Parents who resisted the intermarriage of a child may soften their opposition when grandchildren come. Or their resentment may harden because of the embarrassment of a blood relation who is a mixed-race child. Late marriages those that occur past child-bearing age may receive less opposition for this reason. M y attempts to answer the question "What differentiates those families who can welcome someone racially different from those families who cannot?
Open families most resemble an individualistic society in which interdependence is maintained and intermarriage is acceptable. Families that I term "pseudo-open" may encourage interracial or interethnic friendships and be fine with interracial dating, but they oppose interracial marriage. Other families are "pseudo-closed"; they are sometimes able to grow over time to greater acceptance of an interracial marriage -- but this often takes years, and sometimes the birth or death of a family member.
Closed systems typically correspond with monarchical family models, show less tolerance of individual deviation, and see race as a critical piece of the image or product and property of the family. The hallmark of closed families is the rigidity of rules maintaining distance between "us" and "them. Communication moves in a single direction from the decision makers to the lower-ranking members -- that is, from parents to children. The flow of communication may not change even when children are grown and well into their adult years. Cultural, ethnic, or religious traditions are often key parts of identity and help determine the boundaries that mark in-group and out-group status.
One immigrant group that has recently had great difficulty breaking closed ranks are adult children of South Asian families. Many were born or raised from an early age in the United States and are very Americanized.
Intermarriage naturally emerges as a possibility for this generation, but their parents often insist that they marry someone culturally similar who has similar class standing. Some parents have hired private investigators to find out whether their children are having secret relationships; and some try to arrange marriages or place newspaper ads for suitable spouses for their children.
They are often openly rude to girlfriends and boyfriends who are not of the "correct" racial, cultural, and class background. Much of this rigidity stems from unchallenged prejudices or unrealistic expectations. In a culturally and racially diverse nation with tremendous geographic mobility, educational opportunities away from home, and integrated workplaces, it is unrealistic not to consider the possibility that a son, daughter, grandson, granddaughter, niece, or nephew will fall in love with a member of an "out" group.
Until it comes to crossing the color line, closed families are not necessarily dysfunctional families -- which are unstable and chaotic, lack the capacity to nurture, and can be abusive. But they do tend to have certain rigidities, fears, and prejudices that are not easily changed by facts or experience. Their ability to act lovingly in the face of these feelings is limited or nonexistent. Interracial dating is explicitly forbidden. Closed families do not always engage in overt forms of racial discrimination, but they usually do their best to pass on a way of thinking that perpetuates the borders between the races, a way of thinking that forecloses critical thinking about race.
Often the prospect of an interracial marriage takes on mythical proportions and the partnership is seen as an act of blatant disloyalty, even as an act of war. Filial piety is assumed; sons and daughters are indebted to their parents and must repay them for their sacrifices. Marrying the right partner is a filial obligation. The children of these families are caught in a horrible bind: sacrifice their own needs and desires or alienate their parents, perhaps permanently.
Closed families have narrow criteria for whom they will accept as one of the clan. They will open their ranks only to persons who guarantee betterment of the family position. Regardless of how a family becomes closed, the opportunities for growth and change are limited. In an extreme example of a closed family, Randall, an African American in his mid-forties, spoke about his ex-mother-in-law's inability to see him as a person.
My daughter and my son are black and white. To make it brief, my wife called her mother in California one Christmas day and put our daughter on to talk to grandmother. She didn't say a word to our daughter and my wife gets back on the phone and her mother says, "What the hell is the matter with you?
I don't want a nigger in my family! Such behavior is not limited to parents and grandparents. Sometimes adult children disown their parents, as in the case of Linda, who married a white man years after being widowed by her Filipino husband. But in the card she didn't mention anything about having feelings against us or for us. She just sent the card to me.