As I continue this journey of resisting what I call "League Theory," I've realized that everyone should feel the same.
I am smart, wildly ambitious, self-motivated, silly, fun-loving and energetic. If someone doesn't find value in those attributes, then we weren't meant to be in the first place. It didn't work out with that super hot guy because it wasn't meant to work out. And I don't mean that in some fate-oriented, "true love will come one day," way. I mean purely in the sense that no matter how physically attractive someone is, if they don't have the values to appreciate things like intelligence, ambition and laughter, then we never would have worked out anyway.
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Now, that's not to say that all "hot" people are superficial and that everyone who is not stereotypically "hot" is a genuine person. If you're thinking this right now, then you're still in the mindset of League Theory. On the contrary, the point is that the combination of those attributes -- physical attraction and emotional suitability -- is what makes someone attractive.
We need to stop forming silly little leagues based on the shape of someone's cheekbones. When you think like this, you can save yourself the heartbreak, time and energy that would have been associated if the person did pursue you and then you realized that you weren't a great fit together. I have absolutely no interest in dating a shallow robot whose only redeeming qualities are their abilities to dress well and grow a nice set of facial hair.
I'm way more interested in being with someone who has similar interests and is oriented around the same values that I am passionate about.
- TYPHOON (Japanese Edition).
- Cosmopolis: Roman (German Edition).
- Mysterious Destiny;
- What does it mean when someone is "out of your league"? : seduction!
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- Stop Saying He (Or She) Is Out Of Your League.
Now, everyone is not like me. We all have a different idea in mind for the type of personality and emotional and intellectual attributes that we desire in our "ideal" partner. But the point is that one thing is true for all of us: someone's face shouldn't hold more value than their heart, and someone's body shouldn't be considered more important than their mind.
Compatibility isn't founded purely on how attractive you and your partner are in respect to each other; that's the number one aspect of League Theory that we seem to succumb to unknowingly. Beautiful people aren't beautiful based solely on how they look, but more so on who they are. Let's stop buying into ideas about who we should date and who should be interested in dating us.
Take the first step towards combatting League Theory and look in the mirror. The face you see is beautiful. Remind yourself of that fact until you believe it as emphatically true. But more than that, think about your talents, interests, passions, and values. For example, try sharing something embarrassing that happened to you but that ended up being funny, like a mishap at a store or a misunderstanding at school. If you can find out what kinds of memes or videos she likes, you can tailor your jokes to fit that kind of content.
For example, if she loves dog videos, you could pull up a favorite funny dog video to share with her. Ask her to hang out in low-key situations to get to know her better. Try inviting her to a movie, concert, sports game, art exhibit, or fun dinner. Do you want to come along? Do you and your friends want to meet up with us before it starts? Method 3.
Share your contact information so that you can text and message her. This is a great way to increase how frequently you get to talk to her. You can text, message, and interact on social media. Can I get your number?
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Can I get it from you? Get to know her friends so that they can put in a good word for you. Her friends may be the best starting point to you moving beyond the friendzone with this girl. Learn their names, listen to their stories, and treat them all with respect. Make eye contact, laugh at her jokes, touch her arm lightly, and tease her a little bit.
Make sure to keep things light-hearted and fun. If she blushes or responds to you similarly, she is most likely into it. When you make eye contact, try smiling at the same time and holding her gaze for a little longer than usual. Give compliments about her accomplishments, personality, and looks.
Keep your comments brief and sincere. Was that easy for you or were you nervous inside? Try standing close to her so that your shoulders touch, lightly touch her arm when you make a joke, or pass her something so that your hands touch.
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Have a direct conversation with her to share your feelings. Ask her to meet somewhere quiet, like a coffee shop or park. Make eye contact with her and keep it as simple as possible. Accept her answer and respond kindly, no matter what she says.
Hopefully, she says that she feels similarly and would like to continue getting to know you better. Let her know that you still would like to be friends and then take some time over the next few weeks to recover from the situation. I hope we can still be friends and talk from time to time. Maybe we could go grab a coffee next week and check out that new art exhibit that is coming out. Does next Friday work? Is being a jerk better than being the nice-guy? What are the long-term consequences of making a radical change of character like that? No, being the nice guy who respects others and women will get your much farther in a healthy relationship than being a jerk would.
Funny, Memes, and Never: Always shoot for someone out of your league, you never know, they might have self-esteem issues esarcasm only SarcasmOnly. Bitch, Gym, and League: When she's way out of your league but you still slide in that DM because mama ain't raise no little bitch MasiPopal Sliding right in. Girl, A Hot Girl, and League: When a hot girl way out of your league starts showing legitimate interest in you visible confusion] There must be a mistake.
Funny, League, and Clown: When she's out of your league but u stil try because ur confident sense of humor will make up for it Ma Clown boizzz. Funny, Girl, and League: When you realize the girl you like is out of your league and there's no chance of you getting together with them kingsofsusery Goodnight. The end goal is you standing by my side making everyone jealous from you seeing some sort of irredeemable quality that they can't. You get the satisfaction of knowing everyone will see us and think "Man, how did a guy like him get a girl like her!? It's sort of like reverse psychology.
You make me look hotter by making me look uglier.
- Looking at Myself;
- A Highlander of Her Own!
- She's Out of My League - Wikipedia;
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